Modern cars are incredibly sophisticated devices with many different computer systems running a lot of code. They all run real time OSes, which are quite distinct from an operating system like Windows. They have to do their functions correctly 100% of the time. Now cars are getting tons and tons of sensors. RADAR, LIDAR, visual cameras, etc., all running sophisticated algorithms.
There are massive safety reasons (not just to yourself, but to your fellow man) to not tinkering with these systems.
I know a lot of car guys lament that it's harder to work on a car today, but your average consumer is delighted by this. Cars are much more reliable today than they were before. Most people don't want the freedom to work on a car that constantly needs to be worked on because it is always breaking. They want something that is reliable and with minimal maintenance just works every single day.
Cars are also much safer, with much more robust safety technology. I'm a fan of Jalopnik, and I like to stay up on the latest in car technology, but my interest is from an average user standpoint.
Electric cars with self-driving technology is really exciting. I'm excited for this future. I'm going to support it. I don't need a car to tinker with for my everyday needs, nor do the vast majority of people. If I want a car to tinker with, I'll get a project car for track use.