Quality and diversity - the further out you go the more conservative heavy you get, and the more focus on schools and churches as community bases.

Have you ever left the city yourself? There's great food everywhere. The best food I've had has been outside of cities. There are art galleries at every college and some outside of them too, but even if cities have "better" art, I'm fine with just getting it from the internet. Same for music - Woodstock took place on a dairy farm. I'm not sure of the exact intent of "play" but things like hiking trails and snow tubing hills are found outside cities, along with again the internet. The only point here that might make sense is dating, if you assume a higher density of people means a higher chance of finding the right person for yourself, but it also means more competition.

If you want alternate theories, one influence could be that cities having higher populations means that among the group of people who have remote work, more of those people will live in cities. Also, someone who works as a programmer likely had to move to a city in the first place to get a job and wouldn't want to move out immediately after being used to living there. There are likely other factors too but I'm really not seeing how the quality of food and entertainment is supposed to be better enough in cities that it would be a driving factor.

The trade-off of some additional convenience living in the city might give you, for always having to be on the look out for pickpocketers, no outdoor privacy, not being able to feel as safe being out at night, having to pay for parking or use public transportation (I'd rather not have to only take home from the grocery store as much as I can fit in a backpack and then have to carry around a gallon of milk on the way home), having to deal with aggressive panhandlers and drug addicts asking you for money all the time, and higher cost of living among other things, isn't worth it to everyone, even if that's hard to believe for you. I've spent a fair amount of time in cities and I know that the negatives I listed are enough for me personally to not really want to live in one if I don't have to.