I'm a city person, currently living in New York; I often have these types of discussions with people, and it's very easy for any one of us to forget that people can fundamentally value very different things, and that one of the important things in life is to find out what you value, and prioritize it accordingly.
Two of my friends live in Texas, in moderately large houses; they're justifiably proud of them, but all I see is a huge expanse of wasted space, a lawn to upkeep, and nothing (except neighbors) to walk to. Meanwhile, they look at my life and see a tiny cramped apartment where our baby has to sleep in our bedroom, and a commute that's twice as long as theirs standing shoulder-to-shoulder with people.