I am currently co-developing a tech project with a woman. We have extremely disparate communication styles and we struggle at times. But because we both share common values, such as putting the customer's and team's interests over our own, it provides a foundation for mutual respect. We also both agreed to continuous improvement of our technical and communication abilities and now trust each other when providing constructive criticism.

It is absurd that it took decades before I had an opportunity to work this closely with a woman. I am now a better communicator, a better leader, happier, calmer, and a better follower. We need more women in tech.

I am rooting for this author and women in general, but you don't fight dysfunction with dysfunction. It's as if author wishes to replace "bro" culture with "me" culture. And beliefs like, "I don't care about your culture" can outright destroy a company. Perhaps I am taking that last statement it out of context. But I wouldn't hire Alan Turing if he said something like that and meant it literally.

Like it or not, culture is a top-down phenomena. Assuming the culture isn't totally broken, first learn it, then master it, then earn respect, then rise, then change it. There are no short cuts to influence regardless of gender.