Facebook is right to be incredibly cautious. Imagine getting your gmail or Facebook account shut down because of suspected fraud, and what a huge personal impact that would have on you. Facebook realizes this, and also realizes it is a PR nightmare every time one of those stories makes it onto HN / reddit.
Not that I actually care if FB is successful or not in their venture, and I will be very happy if they go the way of MySpace, but I don't agree with the human cost and PR impact you are talking about.
I stopped using my personal PayPal for this reason.
I think the issue is that unfortunately a lot of internet based companies fail customer management when it comes to edge cases. I see this in the YouTube community relations, Facebook advertising and pages and AWS Help. It can be extremely hard to get edge cases solved by a company that is technology focused.
The customer relations for brick and mortar companies seems more flexible. I think sitting down with a manager at a bank works wonders when there is some strange thing holding up your account.
But yes they have along history of freezing and seizing money and accounts, stay away from paypal.
100% for it, I'm always happy to see people freely sacrificing their control in the name of 'convenience' get fucked by that decision :)
The only way for them to integrate with a better society is to learn, really.
Turns out gmail has also a reputation for doing this and locking you out of your digital life.
You at no point anted up the resources or effort to maintain that data, that was all them. You freely volunteered it to them in the name of 'convenience'; I don't see what part of that arrangement implies they owe you anything once you've finally realized the stupidity of that decision.
Life is not a series of 'okay, I learned my lesson, now please fix it for me' kindergarten tutorials. If it takes a significant loss of data you thought was rightfully yours for you to learn the value of data, then take your lumps and consider it a bargain.