Why are you forced to use it? The only time I see it is when it comes up on my macbook when I plug my phone in, then I just close it - and I could probably stop it showing up then too.
There is a real market opportunity for someone to do just this cleanly on Windows; Apple works hard to make things more secure (aka changes the software & hardware interface for backups) all the time though.
Top priority: getting media (pics+videos) off the device. Any suggestions would be appreciated!