It is forever intertwined. Ford was against financing war (but also supported Hitler), but the roads and interstates that made the car viable in the US was military driven by Eisenhower's interstate system (and the railroad monopolies).
I agree things are made/innovated on outside of war, but somewhere along the line most technology is defense driven or funded.
What was the Wright brothers invention used for first? Later came commercial flight.
The solar system research is driven by science but the science programs are largely defense supported and dual purpose. For instance, many of the shuttle trips have a defense purpose or classified payloads. Even the trip to the Moon was for defense leverage on Earth.
From Archimedes to Tesla to science and technology innovation today, most technological advances are closely linked to defense funding or war technology.