I think of it like this: I want to lay on the couch, not go to the gym, but I want to want to go to the gym, or I want to have gone to the gym. I want to have gone to the gym because I hate to be at the gym. Realizing that, I have a choice: is going to the gym a chore, like flossing my teeth to avoid tooth pain or taking out the garbage so I'm not living in garbage? that is, is going to the gym something I do even though I don't want to, and which I needn't pretend to like? or should I just admit that i hate the gym and find something else to do?