I like it just fine.
She doesn't.
She's admittedly jealous of how much time I spend with my son, she resents having to continue on her career path and not being able to be a stay-t-home mom. She doesn't understand why I would rather raise my son than work a real programming job.
We are getting divorced.
Here's some unsolicited, opinionated advice from my position of ignorance, take it with a grain of salt:
If she wants to stay at home, let her. But make it clear you're happy with your job as is, and wants to be part of your child's life. Find some not-childcare-related housework that she can take off your hands to keep things fair. Preferably something you don't like anyway.
I would be AOK with "letting" her stay home, although there's no letting this woman do anything, she does everything for herself just fine, thanks. She decided that she needed to continue her career to achieve her life goals of owning a home, paying for our child's college, those sorts of things.
TBH she's probably right, I'm a bit more "anarchy and freedom is what i want" and value my time and agency over money.
This is more common than people think. I've had male friends who either become stay at home dads or rearrange their work life to take on a majority of the childcare responsibilities.
It's interesting how often this causes conflict in a marriage.
> she resents having to continue on her career path and not being able to be a stay-t-home mom
If you're already covering the majority of the household income with the SaaS while your wife is in grad school... why does she have to continue grad school and her career path?
We are comfortable but we don't own a car and we rent. She wants to buy a house, I want to build an earthship.
I get a lot out of being my own boss and learning new things and adding features to my SaaS, and the value inherent in entrepreneurship and building a business. My wife shares none of that, but does share the anxiety, instability and risk of self-employment.