Assuming you're not trolling, it's impressive that you're 10 and on HN. I think modern culture, in a bad way, encourages people to take their inclinations to the extreme. If you have ADHD, you're not just someone with that particular medical condition, you're "an impatient genius who has no tolerance for BS or stupidity." That's not to say you think of yourself as such, just that people are rewarded for acting consistently with a memefied Hollywood stereotype of themselves. This in turn influences and reinforces behavior.

Focus on how you can utilize your mental makeup to shape your life rather than bend others. Reduction of zero-sum dog eat dog thinking would help ameliorate any social aspect of your anxiety. I didn't have much to go off of from your post but I hope that helps.