> No, my default is to look at the statistical evidence around me.
No, you're going by anecdote and perception, which is why you fell back to "well I think it looks racist".
> The statistics are showing that we treat other races worse than we treat white people.
Who is we in this scenario? Keep in mind that you're trying to prove that the US is majority racist.
> Nothing I'm saying is a lie, so I'm not even sure how your expression applies.
You stated "if it acts like a duck... (it's probably a duck)" to sidestep having to prove that the US is systematically racist. To you, it's not a lie and you've constructed a fallacy in which the onus would be to convince you, personally to change your perception.
The expression applies because if everything and everyone is slated as racist, when actual racism happens, reports of it will just be lost in the noise.