1. As another commenter wrote, investors as an aggregate are the market (hedgers, as another listed, are also considered, or could be considered investors who are investing for reasons other than direct belief in the individual companies/stocks).Fair enough, I set myself up for that. It sort of like, "if a million people join this group, this group will have a million members", though.
3. You talk about option strategies, but for every move you make, say buying a call, another party had to have written the option. For individual investors, your point could still be very accurate. However, at some scale (though ridiculously large these days), this will break down.
But both parties theoretically benefit. Imagine you want to sell some stock, but you don't care that it happens today. Just write a call for it, collect your premium, and if the stock hits the strike price, it will probably be called away. But if not, you got some free money.
On the other side, the call buyer is protected against a severe market fall. If he bought the stock and it pulls an Enron, he would have lost a significant amount of money. But if he has the call option, it just expires, and he is out a few bucks per share.
So as with anything, spending money isn't necessarily taking a loss, but getting the money is taking a gain. (Consider homeowner's insurance -- even though your house is probably not going to burn down, few people consider the insurance a waste of money. You win peace of mind, and the insurance company gets some chump change.)
But I guess we mostly agree. I spent a long time thinking there was nothing interesting about the stock market and that everyone should just buy index funds, but now I am not so sure. A slightly more aggressive trading strategy could slightly increase your returns.