As a small-company person who migrated a few years ago to one of the Big Four, I can confirm that almost every time someone tells you about "scale" they are bullshitting you. Most developers on those companies either do not deal with scale at all (anyone dealing with front end stuff) or do so by using abstractions which allow them to ignore scale (99% of developers). But scale sounds sexy so everybody pretends they have something to do with it. And it sounds better than "bloat" which is what they really mean.

The other variant of "scale" is "I have this single-computer application running on X hundred thousand servers" or some ambarrasingly parallel problem of that sort. Then they will claim boldly that something that has a 0,0001% chance of happening "happens multiple times a day here" which sounds impressive until you realize that that thing has no impact on the SLA and you get saved by the load balancer so it isn't particularly important anyway.

The 1% of people who work on real problems in the area don't need to brag on the Internet about "scale" because they are too busy working.