I would like to think that statistics comes more from a pure math approach, loosely, while ML comes from an applied math approach, loosely. ML works spectacularly well on a class of problems. Why it does what it does is (in)conveniently brushed under the rug. How you treat that (in)convenience is left to you.
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very curious to hear about your point of view. Statistics is not linear regression and ANOVA, or whatever catalogue of techniques in a freshman book, not even the library of techniques available in R.
Statistics is the application of probability (or more broadly, math) to data.
That said statisticians did miss the neural net wave because of their flippant reaction to it. They said, "oh well yet another non-parametric function approximator we have worked out the asymptotics 30 years ago".
To paraphrase someone wise: asymptotically we are all dead. Not enough heed was paid to that. Among their other lacks were expertise in algorithms and optimization. Mind you, optimization has been at the core of their craft from their very genesis, its just that they did not feel it important enough to ride the cutting edge of research on optimization. Note: you cannot do maximum likelihood with solving an optimization problem. Gauss was doing it several hundreds of years ago for statistics. If I go on a bit further with my rant, they got a bit carried away with their fetish over bias and asymptotic normality. They missed the wave, sure.
But all said and done, by any accepted definition of statistics, NN is very much also statistics.
And who says frequentist and Bayesian are the only two views. Where would you shelve prequential statistics then ? Or nonparametric regression
Prediction has definitely been a part of statistics but often, as you rightly claim, as a byproduct. And yes i would characterize the focus of stats and ml exactly as you did
Statistics works the other way. You basically always start with some kind of probabilistic model. And then, if you even bother with prediction, you work towards prediction from the probabilistic model. With stats you don't need to interpret or add probability after the fact, it's already there.
Obviously stats and ML are enormous fields, with quite some overlap. And people tend to go after low hanging fruit; if many people who studied neural nets have formal probability backgrounds it simply makes sense that someone will write a paper on it. And I'm generalizing here (same goes with frequentist & Bayesian comment). But there absolutely is justification for saying "neural nets are not really a statistical technique".
nns are in no way less fundamentally associated with probability than say linear regression. In both cases you can start with a probability model and derive the final form as a logical consequence, or you can start with the final form and slap a consistent probabilistic model on top.
The main thing is that any test you come up with that carves nns away from stats is going to carve a whole lot of other things that people have no trouble calling them stats. This controversy essentially stems from the need to claim a technique for ones own tribe and not concede to another. I am making no moral claim here just an observation and neither is it a novel one.
BTW I am firmly from the ml camp and not stats. I enjoy poking a little bit of fun at statisticians and try being gracious about their criticism of ml. That said i feel no need to make a groundless claim to a technique when they have no less rights to it in terms of objective claims. Rights steeped in culture, fiat and history are a different matter.