'robust' - resilient against shocks, volatility and stressors
'antifragile' - thrives on shocks, volatility and stressors (ie. gets better in response)
Antifragile is a step beyond robust. Examples of antifragility are evolutionary systems and true free market economies (as opposed to our too-big-to fail version of propped-up, overly interconnected capitalism).
So far you've named "evolutionary systems", which are quite fragile in the real world, and an imaginary thing called a "true free market economy".
That said, if you are calling the entire multibillion year phenomenon of life on this planet "fragile" then we are not going to get on well.
Point-in-time human-engineered systems still can't really be anti-fragile, except perhaps in some weird corner cases, but the system as a whole with the humans included, over time, can be.
It should also be pointed out that "anti-fragile" was always intended to be a name for things that already exist, and to provide a word that we can use as a cognitive handle for thinking about these matters, not a "discovery" of a "new system" or something. There are many anti-fragile systems; in fact it's pretty hard to have a long-term successful production project of any kind in software without some anti-fragility in the system. (But I've seen some fragile projects klunk along for quite a while before someone finally came in and did whatever was managerially necessary to get someone to address root causes.)
When I think of anti fragile systems, truly adaptive algorithms come to mind that learn from a failure. For example, an algorithm that changes the leader in a global leader election system based on the time of day because one geographic region of the network is always busier depending on time of day and latency to the leader impacts performance.
If you can't control the amount of stressors and shocks, you want a system that is neither antifragile or fragile, but strictly indifferent to the level of shocks.
As for a definition, antifragile things get stronger from abuse--like harming muslces during a workout so they grow back stronger. If they were just robust, it would be like machinery (no healing / strengthening).
While I can imagine software that is in itself antifragile, I think it's entirely reasonable to include the totality of the people and process that make up an operational system, in which case even your narrow definition applies here.
You are watering down the word so much that it wouldn't have reason to exist. Is every chair-making process antifragile since chairs get stress tested before being sold?
There's a world of difference between stress testing before something is sold or released and welcoming ongoing hostility throughout its lifecycle, and this difference is absolutely in line with the concept of antifragility.