> Step 4: In frustration...

Step 4 requires no frustration. It should be a relief you can fix it yourself rather than hope for some opaque engineering team to maybe fix it at some future date since your company doesn't have the Platinum Support package.

> Steps 5..41: ...

I think maintainers of small projects should do their best to merge whatever is given to them without back and forth or delay--just a prompt and sincere thanks. There's no reason to treat contributors like junior devs you're trying to teach and guide. Sometimes that requires swallowing some pride in having the code be just right or means you may want to fix up a few things after the merge.