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My wife was on birth control the first nine years of our marriage (excluding the gaps when our kids were born) and I've been responsible for the birth control for the last twenty years. That seems like a pretty fair distribution of the responsibility to me.

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It's not about reluctantly assuming responsibility; it's about having sexual autonomy.

Years is a strange unit of responsibility. What were the methods, how do they compare?

Some methods are ongoing maintenance with side effects, some are permanent with varying short-term side effects.

I'm assuming his wife was on hormonal birth control while they were starting their family and once they were done he had a vasectomy.

Someone sane pointed out that the problem isn't the men in the study being wimps. Or that frankly there isn't any good drug target for male hormonal birth control. But that vasectomy rates are much lower than they should be. Because if you want something cheap, extremely safe and reliable, and you don't mind it being permanent, vasectomies are what you want.

I purposely left the "means" ambiguous but you're 100% correct. It was also my intention to point out that BC is a concern of a couple ... If you're talking about avoiding pregnancy during anonymous sex then the only logical stance is that both should be on BC since they can't really trust the motivations and diligence of their partners.

yeah but this is for more anonymous sex, not partners that actually talk to each other

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