abusing kids is one extreme, opposite of it are spoiled kids who are allowed to do anything without consequences. I've seen quite a few kids where parents are clueless about proper parenting, and will do/grant/provide anything just to stop kid from annoying them and leave them alone. not surprisingly, those kids end up as proper a
holes in school, not sure what comes after school years (but probably rarely something good).
I personally believe in middle ground (well, not exactly in the middle) - accidents/mistakes should be explained and discussed, lessons learned etc.
Intentional evil doing should be punished, ie by taking away phone/laptop/extra house chores/whatever, consequence adequate the action.
In this kind of logic it makes sense to punish criminals, since it's believed some sort of pavlovian reflex would kick in (do bad -> go to jail). it ignores the complexity of reality, ie jail creates criminals even from good people, and practically never the opposite.
But then again, you have serial killers, pedophiles, rapists etc in all kinds of horrible combinations. i don't believe these can be 'repaired', only made 'dormant'. What to do with these... people kill other people for no good reason all the time. I guess I somehow ceased to care in order to not go crazy from daily news