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Do people judge on looks, of course but women less so. How a profile is written can absolutely make a difference. It is your personality translated in to words.

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Nah as bisexual guy and in my experience women are more judgemental then guys.

They after all might procreate with you.

Just to put some data on this phenomenon. Women rate 80% of men as less attractive than average. Oddly enough, they message them anyways.

https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dat...

Average? That's ok. If it were median there would be some problem here though... ;)

(e.g. If every men is the same, except one who is beautiful, than everybody is below the average but one.)

Uhh, you can't have 80% below the median. That's impossible by definition.

Yes that's my point. But 80% below the average can be a valid/true valuation, no logical glitch here: If the "wisdom of the (female) crowd" says that's the case, then it may be true - so I don't see the issue here...

So to clarify - your data says nothing about whether women are judgemental - they may be just realistic ;) If beauty is in the eye of the beholder than how can we argue them?

My experience is the same as yours, but there might also be a big difference between gay and straight guys. The dating pool is a lot smaller for gay guys. What percentage of people are gay? Like 5%?

From what I've seen, women judge more on looks than men, but what they find attractive is far more diverse than men. OKCupid has some interesting data [1] supporting this. When you consider that most relationships form between people of a similar age, it follows that the man is compromising more on looks.

[1] http://fivethirtyeight.com/features/christian-rudder-datacly...

Christian Rudder doesn't normalize his dating data. Take what he says with a grain of salt.

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