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Move to a city with a substantial immigrant population and date women who were born outside the US. My girlfriend is Filipina and she's not like the Roissy/SatC stereotype at all. She has actually said that Sex and the City set feminism back 20 years, and I agree.

I'm 26 and have had a pretty solid dating life, but I've never dated an American white woman.

It takes a lot of time to meet good women, though. You have to be extroverted and make a lot of friends, who will introduce you to their friends. Don't expect results for at least a year. Even in Manhattan, I know some beautiful 22+ women who've never had a one-night stand.

Also, some advice: take a 3-to-6-month hard-line break from dating. You need to purge yourself of the misogyny that combat dating creates. I took a total break after I found myself, to my horror, behaving like an asshole to perfectly nice women. After that shock, I stopped dating entirely for 3 months, and met my current girlfriend after that.

(Mind that this is my experience only, so I don't pretend to be right: don't get me wrong on this one) I've been travelling quite a lot and I've been hitting on pretty much any kind of woman and the scary thing is the consistency of the response, regardless of looks, ethnicity, social and relationship status. I've discussed the matter with other guys and there are some arguing that if the woman's married/engaged it's even easier, because of the novelty factor involved. My thoughts come from the reality i've known and experienced, if you wanna call it mysogyny i guess it's fine by me.

There are a lot of trashy women of all ethnicities and social classes (and, likewise, men). There are also a lot of married creeps (again, both men and women) who remain "on the market". This is nothing new, and it's not very surprising.

I know I repeat myself but the thing that scares me to death is that this is not about j.random college slut or the housewife looking for adventure. Or about any specific group of belonging.

What you have to accept is that there's no shortcut. There's no social class or group of women in which the trashy ones disappear, and there's no stereotype that can substitute for an intelligent and sober judgment of her character, which takes time.

This is the No True Scotsman fallacy. You're expanding the definition of "trashy" until it encompasses whatever girls people say fall for "game".

Unfortunately that leaves you with pretty much nobody.

Having sex with someone you met in a bar, simply because he or she used a few canned lines and techniques, is trashy. This is true regardless of social class, ethnicity, education, gender, et al.

As I said: That leaves you with pretty much nobody.

If you'd constrained it to, say, those who will agree to sex the same night, the numbers would look different, or to the ones who'd explicitly agree to something they know would end up as a one night stand.

But even then, most likely most of the girls you believe to be "classy" and/or "innocent" have at one time or another fallen for game, whether natural or learned - though they may not admit to it. Girls lie through their teeth about these things if put in situations where they're worried about being labeled.

And if you think game these days is constrained to "a few canned lines and techniques", you have no idea.

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