> It should be clear that changing the [behavior] of the interpreter, even in subtle ways, puts a burden onto anyone hoping to maintain parity in their own runtime, yes?
No, that's not clear. Any changes to the language specification put a burden on the maintainers of interpreters/compilers. Any extra changes to the CPython interpreter do not. You argued that behavior of CPython becomes its own spec, beyond that of Python itself, but this does not seem to be the case. There are a bunch of optimizations that CPython does, like caching small ints, that programmers do not tend to rely on and do not form a sort of shadow-spec for other interpreters.
You might say that dict keys staying in insertion order is more useful than the other CPython idiosyncrasies and therefore will become a shadow-spec, unlike the others. That's possible, but let's consider the risk.
Pythonistas have done just fine without this behavior for a while. There's OrderedDict, but it was added in 2008, relatively late. If there had been lots of demand/usage, I'd have expected it to be added earlier. PEP 372 [0] indicates that use in a metaclass was one of the big motivations, which was only enabled the year before.
When a new Pythonista considers this issue, they are likely to search the internet for discussion and will find commentary on OrderedDict. I expect most will use OrderedDict when appropriate.
The riskiest group would be folks porting code from PHP and Ruby, or other languages that have a core mapping type that keeps insertion order according to the language spec. They'd just expect a Python dict to behave the same way and won't bother to read about it. To evaluate the impact of this change, we should ask how much porting from PHP/Ruby/etc. do we expect to occur, how likely is it that dict implementation will drop insertion ordering in the future, and how much benefit does this implementation provide.
Based on the explanation of the memory and compute savings, this new dict implementation sounds like a good idea.
Also, Ruby made the change in 2009 to the language spec. I'm not an expert Rubyist, but AFAICT it hasn't caused any problems for their community.
[0] https://www.python.org/dev/peps/pep-0372/