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Comment by justanotherone | Hacker News Reader

"Find a desperate woman raised to be subservient and isolate her to preserve control"

Gosh what awful, scary, and horrible advice. You'd have to be an awful, scary and horrible person to think this is a good thing.

It's actually a common perspective from the "manosphere" on sites like ReturnOfKings and RooshV. Chateau Heartiste also comes to mind. They were very interesting reads but some of the writings were too hostile for my taste.

Why are you recommending foreign if not for desperation?

And what 'family values' exactly are you looking for that aren't subservient behaviours?

I lived in Thailand for a year and saw plenty of creeps like yourself exploiting desperation to get women that would never consider you if they weren't in a bad place already.

You're all the same. Unable to better yourselves you turn into exploitive abusive people.

It's both sad and disgusting.

They're equating the entire tone and wording of your post with subservient, and rightfully so.

OP, it's very easy to develop this kind of attitude after several unsuccessful attempts at intimacy, but this is awful advice that will keep you from ever being happy. This is not a societal problem, it's a personal problem that you just haven't found the right person yet. As other people on this thread have said, honestly reflect on what hasn't been working and why. Work on yourself first and foremost so that you are confident in yourself regardless of what others have thought of you in the past. You can totally find a woman that has the qualities you are looking for, not what some resentful throwaway told you to look for.

posted on a throwaway, of course. even he knows what a disgusting pig he sounds like.

What makes you be in the top 20%?

I suppose I can try to get in shape. How much money you think? What sorta personality?

Your personality. However much you make, it's not important. If you're not confident about the shape you're in, work on yourself. Address your faults, identify exactly the kind of woman you are looking for and figure out how to put yourself in the best place and position to find someone like that.

Looks like someone's got a case of the sour grapes.

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