ah! it's been so long, i've been so busy i couldn't remember who you were, out of curiosity had to look you up. yes. i remember. from successful experience of 10 years using wikis for note-taking in reverse-engineering projects, you insisted on posting unstructured information to a mailing list where it was then utterly impossible for anyone to find it (i don't mean me), help you with it (i don't mean me), collaborate with you on it (i don't mean me)
so... let's rewrite what you said to reflect it from your perspective.
> the project lead who has a lot of experience in > complex reverse-engineering, ongoing documentation, > information management and software libre, asked > me to respect certain rules... and i refused to do > so, causing his life and everybody's life to > become, um, "difficult"
you were causing me a significant amount of work by having to cut/paste things that you were writing to the list instead of putting them in the wiki and sending a link as i asked you to do, so that i was the one that was forced to clean up after you. not really very fair of you to do that to someone is it... but you blamed me for that? uhn??? how does that work??
so... yeah - that you left the list was a good thing because i was able to focus on what i was doing rather than having to clean up after you. sorry if you felt that that was unfair or "a run-in" or was "difficult", but it's real simple: when trying to find important information, if it's unstructured, it might as well not ever have been written. there's only so much that a google search can achieve. i trust that in the intervening years you've learned that by now.