"A loaf of bread, a container of milk, and a stick of butter." - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Im4GwUD1UY8 . That's what the US was like when I was a kid. Were they all bad parents then?
As https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7YrN8Q2PDU points out, "By Western standards, Japanese culture emphasises independence and self-reliance from an extraordinarily young age." Do you think all of Japan practices child neglect?