I'm married so I may be ignorant to this, but how often is the hopeless romantic pursuing his love interest perceived as harassment? Thinking back, maybe asking my now-wife multiple times to go out on a date with me and formally be in a relationship despite going away to live with her parents would be seen as harassment. Neither her nor I see it that way though.

I guess my point is I think making the assumption that guys realize they're harassing and not being a try-hard may be where the err is. But I haven't seen that kinda thing in person myself, so I may be way off.