Being white is clearly privileged in both cases. I never "concluded" that "only" white men are privileged. My other example was meant to specifically trigger the strongest reaction when a black man was paired with the white woman.
The way women are disadvantaged falls in other domains -- like the ability to get jobs in (at least some, probably most) STEM fields. It's a more nuanced distinction.
> Ever been physically attacked by a customer who then goes to accuses you for being mentally sick because the profession you took (a story I read by a male midwife, 99% female to male ratio).
Other stereotypes and arbitrary restrictions placed on gender are bad too. Male nurses are making inroads into the occupation, though they're still a minority. [1] Oddly enough, the men on average made more money per hour than the women.
But the point is that something like 95% of occupations are either skewed toward men or balanced, and you have to go looking hard for any skewed toward women. And if you're looking for well paying jobs, the difference is even more stark. Pointing out the few examples where women have the advantage is roughly equivalent to the "separate but equal" arguments in support of black and white segregation.
>There was a study by someone I no longer recall that showed how industries that has a single dominating gender, typically tend to create a work culture that infuses gender identity of the dominating group. Those of the minority gender then have to choose between either assimilate into that culture or leave. How much of "cultural pressures" could be explained by just that theory, and which gender is then privileged?
Doesn't matter. It could all be explained by that theory, and it would still be important to break open the industries (on both sides -- male nursing and women in STEM) by changing the culture.
Yes it can be uncomfortable. But the fact that a guy can graduate as a software engineer can look at a $100k+ offer out of college, and he can know that the career will be welcoming and comfortable, where a woman graduating with the same degree will face "bro" culture in a lot of companies, and be forced to "assimilate" into that culture or be ostracized? That's simply not OK.
[1] http://www.cbsnews.com/news/number-of-male-us-nurses-triple-...