This conversation makes it sound like I walked around being bitter about customer service or other things that I think are better here. That would be a terrible way to travel! Everywhere I went in Europe really was lovely and I intend to go back.
Then again, these kinds of attitudes can change dramatically across national boundaries; the perspective I have often heard about France is that "the customer is always wrong."
I've had similarly very nice experiences in France at the German border (south west that is).
If you want to read a book quietly at your table, nobody will make you leave. If you want to chat with your friends after the meal because you like sitting down where you are, nobody will bug you to buy a dessert (and conveniently up the gratuity).
I can see how Americans may perceive it as rude, but to me it's an affirmation of personal space, both to the waiter that does not feel compelled to ask how things are going (always when I have a mouth full of food), and to the customer that can enjoy dining in peace.