Ouch. If ever there was a good reason to change your name...
So I cannot agree with you.
What if the Dudes Against Vermont Equality start blowing up bombs all over Vermont?
Silly examples aside, giving up a part of yourself and your life because of terrorism only serves to demonstrate the effectiveness of terrorism, which then serves to encourage more of it.
About politeness, well, it's up to you to get offended. If the hat fits, and all...