Assistant VP in a big bank usually means underpaid third-class software dev. Working as a software engineer at Etsy is most likely a promotion.
I remember once when my dad worked at IBM, he mentioned the president of IBM was only 5 "bosses" up from him. I was really impressed, until he told me that it's not that impressive, because 10,000 other people are also in the same position.
There's entire industries where you start out of college around age 22, get an entry function for 3 years, a follow-up function for 3 years, and then become vice president by 30, and stay there for life, become a partner or change careers. The amount of VCs is ridiculous and totally lost its meaning.
Titles in finance usually reflect pay band rather than any sort of management role.