Speaks volumes for Mr. Musk's character that they're being completely open and honest about this problem. Turns the conversation from "What happened? What are they hiding?" to "Interesting Engineering problem. How can it be addressed?"
http://www.wired.com/2012/10/ff-elon-musk-qa/all/
The reason they're cavalier about landing videos is that there's not much you can really take from them that would be useful to building your own version of this system. It sounds like much of their "secret sauce" is in manufacturing techniques, materials, and internal design.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_private_spaceflight_co...