Sometime's people are trying to be nice but I'm worried they are being sarcastic and I'm not interpreting correctly. The reason I've LEARNED to worry about that is because sometimes I thought people were being nice but they were being sarcastic to me and making fun of me to me or in front of their friends.
Sometimes, hours later, I'll have to reobserve the interaction in my head, view it from all possible angles, cross check it against how this person typically is/how much I genuinely think they like me or not, and then I can feel pretty confident in about the message I think they were really sending across. But if I don't have alot of previous experiences with this person to cross check, it's like having an incomplete algorithm to make a decision on.
Yes, this is an arduous process and it's why alot of people tend to say I keep them at a distance for a while before I get to know them, I need to stay safe and then gradually as I learn more about them open up to them because I can interpret how they are reacting to me correctly.
When it comes to having mutual crushes. It's turning out to be a nightmare trying to navigate weather a guy is genuinely into me and even if I'm willing to believe he is how to engage with that, when other girls are masterminds of cutsey mindgames and being flirtacious.
The guy I think is into me right now I think has become frustrated because I'm not flirting back with him, but he knows I like being around him, so it's confusing for him and I think hes getting frustrated thinking I'm playing mind games. I need to go talk to him before he goes away entirely but what to say? Gosh I don't know, been debating that for weeks now...
In summary, can not only be exhausting it can be emotionally painful and hurtful when the people on the other side facing you don't really understand what it's like in your head. They tend to jump to alot of conclusions that are not even close to the innocent confusion I experience and genuine effort I'm putting in to get to know them.