Scala developers end up on the defensive because many of the claims are either because of misunderstandings or are fashion driven, being repeated ad-nauseam many times by people with only a superficial experience of the language.
For example I'm going to make the claim that SBT indeed isn't just a bunch of symbols, but rather one of the best build management tools in existence. For anybody going to challenge that I'm going to start mentioning the complete clusterfuck of other platforms and languages, like that of C/C++, or that of Python, or that of Javascript, or that of C#/.NET, or that of Haskell. SBT not only does demonstrably a better job than most, but works well out of the box and is relatively pain free. It has its own set of problems of course, but what tool doesn't.
Compatibility issues are real. But you know, the nice thing about those compatibility issues is that it forced the community to come up with solutions. At least Scala and SBT are addressing compatibility issues, whereas the transition from Java 6 to later versions is proving to be next to impossible and I don't think I have to mention Python 3 or ECMAScript 6.
Compilation times haven't been that much of an issue for us because our codebase is split into services and libraries that have a reasonable size. And on the switch from Scala 2.10 to 2.11 I definitely saw an improvement, with the claims of 30% being about right.
I do agree that they can do better, taking a look at similar languages with a slightly better story, like Haskell. However what people are usually missing is that this is usually a trade-off with compile-time safety.
The more static a language is, the harder it is to compile it. The compilation cost for a dynamic language like Javascript is zero, the cost being completely amortized with everything happening directly at runtime. When going from Javascript to Java or C#, for people that prefer Java or C#, people go from zero to a very noticeable and resource intensive AOT compilation step and many times this tradeoff is worth it (depending on whom you ask) for safety, performance or tooling reasons. Well, Scala is a more static language than Java, it infers a lot of things, it has better generics, it does implicits which can then model type-classes and even the infamous CanBuildFrom pattern and so on, giving you a nice balance between productivity and safety in a static language. And that doesn't come for free.