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We detached this ugly personal smear from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10469355 and marked it off-topic.

This is the sort of thing we ban accounts for, so please see https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10473839 and make sure it doesn't happen in the future.

This is beautiful, truly thank you for your judgement.

While it is none of anyone's business. This was an AMICABLE decision both Jesse and I came to. MA is the girls home. We moved to TX as a thought things could get better, new job that was supposed to give us our life together back. The girls wanted to be home, near family, near friends so they could heal. Jesse saw their pain and mine.. I suppose caring for children and doing what they need is selfish. Then I am very selfish to give my children what they need.

This context-missing statement is the epitome of what Jesse always despised about the internet.

From my ex, and good friend whose account got mod-flagged for unknown reasons:

"" This is beautiful, truly thank you for your judgement.

While it is none of anyone's business. This was an AMICABLE decision both Jesse and I came to. MA is the girls home. We moved to TX as a thought things could get better, new job that was supposed to give us our life together back. The girls wanted to be home, near family, near friends so they could heal. Jesse saw their pain and mine.. I suppose caring for children and doing what they need is selfish. Then I am very selfish to give my children what they need.

This context-missing statement is the epitome of what Jesse always despised about the internet.""

Since the context was missing, don't take it so personal. It wasn't clear that the kids originally grew up in that far away place. All I said is "it sounds xyz", it's not an eternal judgment.

> don't take it so personal

This is out of line. It's you who should not have made a personal slight in the first place; if "the context was missing", that only means you didn't know what you were talking about.

Nobody gets to impugn specific people's lives like that here. Since your account is new we'll assume that you didn't know this, but please read the guidelines and in the future, post civilly and substantively or not at all.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

https://news.ycombinator.com/newswelcome.html

The problem is that words like 'selfish' are personal; that's precisely their meaning. It's one thing to say 'don't take it so personal' in a technical discussion where it should be clear to all participants that e.g. pointing out a bug in someone's code is not a personal thing, but if you're going to make remarks on topics that are personal rather than technical, you should either phrase them more tactfully, or else stick to using the Internet for technical discussions.