This doesn't factor in Silicon Valley. SV is an entirely different animal. The cost of living there throws the math way off. I can imagine that those wages are typically very low. $200k in SV is comparable to $70k in most other cities. This is why it's beneficial to work remotely for a SV startup and live somewhere more desirable.
I think we're conflating all startups with SV, which shouldn't be the case. Certainly folks joining SV startups IN SV are being taken for a ride.