https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ariel_Durant

And yet, this is the exception that probes the rule. The above quote has an element of humor in it, and it is basically saying "No modern marriage would allow this, as no modern spouse allow themselves to be ignored for so long." But Will and Ariel Durant did not have a modern marriage. Such a marriage is now illegal everywhere. Will Durant would now get 10 years in jail for announcing his feelings.