If you do split up, it probably means your ex-partner wasn't that great, so he won't pose any real competition for you.
Do you have a source for this?
With small projects you can a) severely limit scope b) enter a smaller market and c) define success in an accessible way.
Edit: Also, with your experiences (from spending 6 months getting to know someone or with your previous business with nterface guys,) it sounds like you were doing some sort of "small projects" with your future cofounders, even if it wasn't framed as such.
The nterface story was definitely just the next level of luck based co-founders. Although, we really did meet by chance. I probably should have gone into more detail that I did in fact hire Dave and Jason to design/program a small project that I was working on. I contracted them out rather than chose them to be my co-founders. It then evolved into something more.
What I'm stressing more in the article is that luck plays a huge role for first time entrepreneurs: smaller network, less experience, can only find people with similar experience, etc.