You took it upon yourself to interfere with other people's relationships and families. Whatever moral reasons you feel justify your anonymous intervention, when you start fucking with other people's relationships and families you have no idea of what's going to happen. A struggling young couple with a small child - the type of "hint" you provided might tip one or both parents over the edge... You have no idea.

In short; IMO dick move

How was harryf in any way saying that the incident in Utah was your fault?

Please take the time to read comments more closely before replying. If you find yourself angry at something, draft a comment, wait a few minutes, and re-read both the draft and the comment to which you are replying before posting. :)

If "some wacko" killed his family and himself as a result of your disclosure, would you feel any culpability at all? Of course, you didn't force them to join the site, but you did make the decision to disclose the information.

What if someone joined the site before they were married, but never contacted anyone? Their spouse receives your email, and confronts them. They are unable to convince their spouse that they never cheated, and the marriage comes to an end. Do you feel culpability in this case?