My cursory view of your personality is that you would feel the same misery if you had spent all your time with your kids and none of your time chasing your dream to build a company. Many people find peace with meditation, therapy, exposure to nature, exercise, limiting caffeine / alcohol, natural medicines etc.
Let's be real. The loser here is middle managers. Not all of them. Just the ones who feed off of the high they get from having control over the office environment.
I think your question and these recommendations are an attempt to treat the symptom not the cause. If you have trouble communicating with other people I think part of it is that you are out of touch with yourself. In an attempt to shield yourself from the judgment of others you limit the way you communicate with other people. Consider therapy, meditation, medication, exercise or some other ways of opening your mind and unraveling any self-criticism that may exist within you. I admit, I'm reading a lot from this question, probably because I asked the same one myself many years ago and only in the last few have finally found real answers.
You can see from the other comments that people like prescriptive actions that anybody can take. It's a lot harder to accept that you might have some behavioral or mental issues that you need to dig into which would then make all of these behaviors natural. Forcing yourself to be a steel man is pretending. Becoming a steel man is much harder but is possible for those who willingly seek treatment. If you're willing to ask this question it means you are a good candidate for treatment. Good luck.
I agree. There are two sides here. Managers with mental health issues (ego / lack of empathy) will make their subordinates miserable.
This point also makes me wonder if habitual burnouts are poor at evaluating potential managers during the interview process and as a result end up burning out repeatedly.
Yes, I know many companies are abusive and chaotic. Hopefully those workers are able to seek employment elsewhere even in other countries where workers have more respect if necessary.
This holds a lot of truth. Look at your friends who are miserable in their jobs. Even when they move to a new job they remain miserable. At some point it becomes clear that some people are just always miserable. Burnout is a natural result of their personality. For many, proper mental health treatment can reverse the tide and allow them to live happy lives while working.
Even small European communities have adult day programs for people with Alzheimer's etc. The idea of old folks homes is foreign in places where people aren't wealthy to begin with. Interesting how a market appears to extract wealth when it exists.
Amazing the lengths the mind will go to to convince itself that it's not a stress or emotional problem that is the underlying condition. This person even convinced themselves that things improved because of FND rather than the improvements in life situation -- changing jobs, time passing from the loss of a partner, time passing from start of pandemic.
I think it's great that you speak up. Your ideas may be incongruous with the current conversation or too black and white when there is a lot of grey beneath the surface. Work on reducing your general level of stress and people will likely be more receptive to your ideas.
It's an interesting question. Is a traumatic experience created in your mind different from one that occurred in the natural world. On the surface perhaps but on a neurological level I don't know.
Perhaps I'm naive but I think few people pretend to have that kind of pain. They do indeed have it. It might not arise from a truly traumatic experience but when somebody is under stress they do often react badly to people seen as threats. And people under stress see threats everywhere.
People with ptsd will find many comments or behaviors aggressive. All the training in the world won't take away that persons pain. Sadly, the people with ptsd will still have it even if a hundred people are punished after interacting with them.
The scientific method is well known in tech. You're kidding yourself if you think these companies don't randomly hire people who perform poorly on interviews and then compare them to people who perform well. You need a broad sample to draw conclusions. They most definitely have.
> When mothers and daughters fight, it always puts fathers in a difficult position.
If a father shows empathy to both there's no reason for him to be put into the crosshairs. If both daughter and mother have a with us or against us attitude that says more about their character than anything else. These issues can be helped with healthier living choices, therapy or medication.
The sad thing is a platform does nothing to help us find common ground and move past the chaos which has overtaken discourse. What is the solution here?
How about we attempt to understand why people are thinking this way. Why are they not interested in thinking your way? What can be done to help both side talk and solve problems together?
This does appear to be a good argument on face however it's not guaranteed that tourists do in fact spend more at local establishments. Furthermore, is an economy boosted by tourism stronger or are there just a lot of low wage jobs available? These kinds of questions should be answered by rigorous study not economists or travel lobbyists.
I understand your desire to help here but it's important to understand these kinds of attitudes can be counter-productive. My saving grace after several months of difficulty sleeping a decade ago was a book called "Say Goodnight to Insomnia" where they systematically break down why most of what you've written here is incorrect. Within a week of reading the book breaking away from many believing many of the things you've written above I was finally able to sleep well and have ever since.
From the description:
My insomnia program achieves its remarkable results because it is based on a simple yet powerful concept: insomnia can only be treated by addressing all the underlying causes. In most instances, the causes of insomnia are thoughts and behaviors (habits) that are learned and can be unlearned. Some examples include:
- Attitudes and beliefs about sleep
- Negative, stressful thoughts about insomnia
- Feelings of loss of control over sleep
- Inadequate exercise or exposure to sunlight
- Going to bed too early or sleeping too late
- Trying to control sleep rather than letting it occur naturally
- Negative responses to stress
- Lying awake in bed, frustrated and tense
Exercise regularly. Gym is not necessary but hour long walks daily will raise Testosterone levels considerably, add to overall calmness and dull your emotions.