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I appreciate your advice and it's definitely something I plan to follow.
I'm aware of the irony of reading what more people, this time strangers on the internet, are telling me to do. I doubt I'll see the answer in a web browser.
For the time being I'm simply trying to do something I've never done before every week. It doesn't have to be drastic, maybe something like trying out a new recipe or taking a photo of a different neighborhood or going for a moonlight run at 3am. Sort of a "throw lots of things at the wall and see what sticks" approach.
I'm just a jaded programmer who is frankly terrified of the brutal startup culture, with no intention of being a founder (can't handle the high pressure and emotional roller coasters) or employee (not a fan of grueling schedules for minuscule hope of a payout). I'm also a couple of years out of grad school and have no interest in going further down that rabbit hole, so don't try selling "education" as an investment vehicle to me either.
The only area where I have a good idea of how to invest in myself is to improve my physical fitness. Still, that's mostly an investment of time and effort, not money.
What am I to do? Maybe it's time I just check out of the working world and wander for a while.
Today, I'm burnt out and have written only a single line of code in the last month, for recreational purposes. Took about two hours of work. Ugh.
I could probably pay less by living elsewhere, but $1000 that stays within the family > $500 to some landlord with whom I have no connection. Also, I'd miss out on Mom & Dad's awesome cooking.
Thanks for rubbing it in :(
/american
- $1000 renting a room in my parents' house (utilities and wi-fi included!)
- $50-100 my contribution to groceries and household purchases
- $50-100 transportation
- $10 cell phone (it's prepaid and I'm a recluse who prefers to communicate online)
- $100-200 miscellaneous discretionary stuff that I don't really track (e.g. restaurant meal, a new pair of shoes, a sale on Steam, yet another USB stick, etc.)
At this rate I socked away about $30k annually into my "I have no idea what to do with this but maybe someday I'll figure it out" fund. Another half that amount in pre-tax retirement savings. So far I've only watched the balance slowly shrink in my brokerage accounts.
I assure you that I do NOT have my shit together, though. You can probably imagine the quality of life I have when discretionary spending is less than 5% of budget.
Considering that you have kids and a house to take care of, I can't even begin to imagine how much of a difference that 45% "other expenses" would make. But you're really going to have to offer more details before anyone here can make suggestions on how to possibly trim some fat there.
The problem is that some elements in society have become extremely effective at creating a perversion of "stuff people want" for their own benefit. They exploit loopholes in the system, whether by preying upon the poorly-informed, shifting costs onto externalities that we can't price properly, engaging in corruption, or producing items of questionable actual value but very attractive perceived value. They take advantage of our desire for easy answers to our problems with minimal effort expended.
Case in point: Ponzi schemes, coal power plants, Halliburton, the tobacco industry, Zynga, and even to an extent, religion
We've tried to control this with laws, education, and social norms, but ultimately it seems the invisible hand reigns supreme.
I dunno about that -- mine actually watches SCM check-ins and flips out if there's some unauthorized code cleanup happening (it "adds risk", supposedly).
And yes, I've also been asked to remove unit tests because they were "making things break" (really just causing builds to fail if a regression was introduced).
As far as I can tell, these places tend to have fairly steep immigration/visa hurdles to overcome, usually involving some kind of employer sponsorship (presumably to deter freeloaders?).
If anyone here has done this, I'd love to hear your stories.
The difference is that this was at BigCo. Does this mean that I'm not cut out for a startup?
(EDIT: Am I a fool for believing that I can escape from 80-hour work weeks and emotional roller coasters by working at a startup?)
Artificial popularity without the engineered quality to back it won't stand up to the test of time. People are fickle and will tend to jump to the next thing that catches their attention, but the sort of thing that remains strong after the promotion machine has shut off probably has something real going for it.
FWIW, Google pointed me to a "top 40" chart from 1911: http://tsort.info/music/yr1911.htm. I'm probably outing myself as a cultural ignoramus here, but the only name I recognize on that list is Enrico Caruso.
The really scary thing is that I've noticed I'm having an easier time acknowledging that I'm boring than taking action to change that. I'm still trying to fight the idea that I might be fundamentally lazy.
But thank you for your support! It will be a difficult journey for me as well.
http://weblog.raganwald.com/2006/06/my-favourite-interview-q...
I'm afraid that I'll wind up like Antoine Roquentin from Sartre's Nausea -- a long world tour followed by disappointment and existential crisis.