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> they often lack patience, where to us it just comes natural.

Having kids fast-tracked me to a critical increase in patience. I've grown so much in less than three years because of my kids. I'm not sure this growth would have ever happened so quickly through other means.

And I'll always have a special, particular respect especially towards my firstborn for causing that in me, and for enduring my shortcomings in the meantime.

> I'd argue that the best time to get kids is as a university student. You get free daycare, the government doubles your stipend (and it's extended), your housing subsidy increases, you generally have more free time as a student...

Where... where do you live? I'm all for having kids as soon as possible, but I was barely able to provide for just myself during university.

This keeps getting repeated all around the comments, but it's absolutely false.

Christians, Jews and Muslims are monotheistic and all claim to be the religion of the One God, yes.

But the Jews rejected the God the Christians believe in, and the Muslims describe/portray a god that is absolutely incompatible with the Christian God.

So essentially no, they can't possibly all believe in the same God.

Are you referring specifically and exclusively to LSD? Or to hallucinogens in general?

A friend of my brother was doing shrooms with a couple other guys, had a bad trip and actually offed himself as part of the trip.

Please don't try to convince people that all of this is completely safe.

Chickens definitely can and do eat eggs. Ideally cooked, good protein source for them.

However, you have a big problem if they discover they can crack eggs and eat the contents. They go crazy on them and it's difficult to get them to stop.

You should have waited 4 more minutes to post this.

at the hooter?

> This is where I object.

Why?

Nah, money can buy pleasure, security, confidence, comfort... but happiness is not necessarily a consequence of that. Some rich people live a very unhappy life. I wouldn't trade places with them for their money.

CAN you be happy because you have money? Yeah, why not. WILL you be happy if you have money? No guarantees at all.

Back in 2016 when I didn't have much money I reluctantly bought a pair of Salomon hiking boots for what I thought was a crazy ~140€ price tag.

After punishing them heavily with hiking, working (concrete, dust, mud, stones, rocks, metal, paint...), running, sports, climbing... they are quite weathered but as good and comfortable as new. I just wish I could buy the same exact ones again.

> How many iphone 13 minis have you used concurrently, and in how many different locations did you own them? Byb your own admission, you only use one at a time.

It's not about concurrent use at all. It's all about availability. I had my simple, trusty Logitech keyboard and mouse. And 2x more of each, in a box, in a cupboard. I'm not using them. But I have the comfort of knowing that if either fails, I'm back up again in two minutes. That, for me, is comfort.

Now, if I had two workplaces (for example home and the office) would I carry my hardware between places? If I can't afford to buy two of them, yes. But if I can afford to pay 20€ twice, I'll have one keyboard at home, the same keyboard at the office, and so. That, for me, is comfort.

Now, scale the keyboard for 20€ to a Lexus for 40k€. Same thing.

The incredible comfort of having readily available that thing which you never, never need, but for some reason you suddenly do now.

> buying x times the exact same car when times comes to change cars is kinda just weird.

I would totally do that if I could. I have done it with shoes when I've had the good insight of thinking about it. I do it often with clothes when I find a good product that suits my needs. And I wish I could do it with my very-average-but-reliable car.

I'm dreading the moment I have to buy the next one and take the risky decision.

I am very fortunate to have an above average salary for where I am from, but what surprised me from going to pretty much broke to quite well off, is that my life didn't become flashy, it just became VERY comfortable with normal, everyday things.

Do you perceive this as a tech-specific thing though? I'm a software engineer but this resonates with me more within other aspects of life in general than my professional background specifically.

> A good part of that is a disguised sense of superiority.

Or not. It can be the struggle of having higher than average standards.

Sadly, your list is incomplete without:

- something someone didn't bother to put any effort or thought into at all.

> Some people are able to integrate things like alcohol, porn or whatever other moral sin of the week without negative effects on their life or relationships. These things aren't addictions for many people and there is also no value in making sweeping generalizations.

A generalisation in itself. And I find your username interesting, given your comment.

Banter aside, there is A LOT of scientific literature about how porn is literally a damaging drug-like addiction.

It's like saying smoking is not bad for some people because they can quit whenever they want. Well, lucky them, but maybe they should, because having that capacity doesn't mean their lungs aren't getting irreversibly vandalised.

> Letting go means stopping to care.

This reasoning (which I can easily identify with) is a slippery slope towards OCD anxiety and depression when you refuse to acknowledge that you can't fix everything.

You need to be realistic, set your priorities within a limited, defined context, take decisions and actions based on those, and forget about the stuff that didn't make your priority list.

That's not not-caring. That's focusing on what really needs your care.

Wish I was better at it though.

> how to minimize it in personal life.

Structure, order, habits.

I am not a Catholic.

I am not sure which label I should use for myself besides Christian as in 'follower of Christ', who tries to follow the Bible as accurately as possible, believing it to be the direct and absolute message from God.

Which indeed makes me incompatible with Catholicism.

People often think of hell as an active punishment form God, but for us humans it's not.

Hell, whatever it is, is where people end up when they'd rather be there than be with Christ.

God will never force you to love Him and accept Him. He gives you the choice, the rest is up to you.

> ...yes, I know I look like a shill/bot. I don't care. They're genuinely just that good, and I will happily advocate for them until that ever changes.

Properly good, human and effective customer service is so rare these days that I tend to trust hyperbolic reviews like these more than others, believing that the person honestly feels that way, having been there myself.

> you believe other people have value

Call it religion, call it moral, call it principles...

> Without religion, I'll define worthwhile for me, is just what I desire. Is that controversial?

Then your religion is you, your moral compass is yourself, etc.

> Are you not allowed to define for you what's worth your time and attention?

How would you then disallow someone whose beliefs don't include the value of others, and follow what they desire, and so live by the laws of the jungle and basically use/destroy the rest for their own profit?

Would you be able to prove or show that that's intrinsically bad? Or would that be just your opinion?

Which shows pretty well how things have changed. People grew up earlier, before. Now, so many people at 30 years old are still children.

Unless you have too many to do this, you just need to show them in the first couple of nights, and after that they pretty much help themselves.

I generally agree with what you are saying, however I'm quite surprised at the pushback about homegrown eggs tasting better than mass-produced.

Send me as many papers as you want, but respectfully, I have empirically tasted the difference. I have no interest on imposing my opinion on anyone, but to me it's pretty obvious and easy to understand and accept that a better fed, better cared for chicken will produce better eggs.

A bit like with Wagyu steak, no?

If you properly dislocate it (thus severing the nerve) it doesn't even get to twitch. In theory it's slightly cleaner and better even for the chicken.

It does require a bit of technique though, and the consequences of not doing it right at first can be very upsetting.

There are several conditions that have visible consequences, such as injuries, malformations, anomalies or a general affectation of their appearance. Plenty of those can be quite disturbing for someone with no experience.

Anecdata also, but I can compare the eggs at home (homegrown) vs. any normal restaurant around and there definitely is a notable difference in looks and taste.

That said, this applies to scrambled or fried eggs.

Omelettes not so much, as seasoning might play quite a big part, and even less with cakes, baked goods, etc. in which eggs are just one more ingredient.

If you got that person in front of them and put a gun in their hand, do you think they'd follow through?

Your question is like a game, and people you ask will most probably treat it as such. People 'kill' in videogames, but most would not like to actually kill in real life.

> not the cheapest option, but definitely the most rewarding

It's not that much more expensive if you were to compare with store-bought eggs that actually match the quality.