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As a student, that seems to be right (qualification > learning). It is the university's job to make sure qualification <--iff--> learning.

I was surprised not to find the most common username that I have encountered: johnd@ and jdoe@.

cost, how much will it cost. do not make me fill out a form before you tell me.

This is my worst nightmare. I had a fairly recent being-trashed encounter and it was the worst month of my life. But thank god it was offline. Made me quite a bit more paranoid about photos, online accounts (closed all), etc. I can't imagine what this must feel like. There really needs to be better legislation for victims.

Does this mean that anybody can sign up on Airbnb and browse verified Name-to-Address matches for people? Plus the photos from inside their homes?

The "they" we are talking about are AirBnb employeees, not some random people. It's no different than giving a copy of your passport to the bank teller - in theory they could also use your info for bad purposes, but it's much less likely than a random person.

Same here. I am going the US because I am much more like Americans than the people from my country. The last thing I want is the ability of the pervasive unethical mindset from back home to make its way to the US.

This is a general pet peeve of mine - I hate it when people present "rags to riches" or "prison to freedom" stories without giving a real sense of the "how" part. To me that is where the real story and the real character lies. Too often stories focus on the pain and suffering alone and the stories feel very incomplete to me. That is also why I kike reading biographies or autobiographies, because there finally the focus shifts from "what" to "how".

update: this was a general comment, not specific to this article where the writer might need to protect her family and thus have good reason not to go into details.

Interesting, no I went through the regular process. Thanks fir the link.

Touching story, but it leaves out the part that most intrigues me: how this person made it to the US. Who would give this person a visa? Illegal resident of China whose background you can't verify. Having been through the US visa application process, I am genuinely baffled that she was given a visa.

Hey everyone! Thanks for the concerns, I am a new commenter, but like <<gruseom>> hinted, I have been reading HN for years, so this is not my first impression of the community. I also come from a culture where "gee why aren't you married yet" or "why don't you make more kids" are considered "safe" questions to ask to people, so the deleted-but-quoted comment was not offensive to me (but having also lived in the US, I understand that it could have been).

Anyway, just to reply to some of the comments: I mentioned the # of kids to present some reasoning behind the biological limitation to get married at 27. But kids and family are still fairly distant in the future for me, so it can change, I recognize that (i.e. haven't totally boxed myself in).

But let's even look at the more interesting side: men who want families have the OPTION of staying single well into their thirties without limiting the number of people who they could statistically find a match from. A 35 year old man has many more potential marriage partners than a 35 year old woman. And I think that is not going to change until it is as common for a 35 year old woman to date and marry a 5+ years younger man as it is for the reverse case.

I should mention that I am super open minded about these things - I am just observing some realities around me, not commenting on whether they are good or bad.

I am a woman and I feel disadvantaged compared to men in two ways when it comes to family life:

1) TIME LIMITATION: I need to finish the child-having process by age 36 or so. I want to have a large family, so to have 5 kids, I should start at 28, one kid/2 years. Tracing back, that means I should get married at 27 and find "the one" at ~26. The upper limit of ages to have kids is greater for men, by a decade.

2) ASYMMETRY IN NUMBER OF POTENTIAL PARTNERS: Say, I decide to have a smaller family with 2-3 kids - that would mean I could get married at 33-34 and still be in my productive zone. Well who am I going to potentially marry when I am 33: guys who are 32+ who are not married. Who will unmarried guys 32+ marry: women ages 24 and above. It's not a self-imposed limitation - I might be fine dating 24 year old guys, but would a 24 year old guy date a 33 year old woman, with the intention to get married if all goes well? I doubt it.

So small family or large family, I need to get married by age 27, where I have the maximum number of options to find my soul mate from. Men can get married at 37 and still have many options in choosing their partners.

And the extra decade without family responsibilities without limiting your options for spouses, I would argue, is the biggest differentiator in the workplace successes.

Schlüssel means 'key' in German.

I don't buy this reasoning. Yes, if someone really wanted to get in, they could probably learn to pick locks. But that doesn't mean locks are useless - now we reduced the pool of potential criminals to people who 1) know to pick locks 2) have been hanging around the area enough to know when the neighbors are away and unlikely to notice anything suspicious while a stranger is picking the locks 3) take greater risks. This is a significant improvement from anybody who saw that the car wasn't parked and decided to waltz in.

This is great. I have always thought that porn websites miss the mark both in 1) user friendliness and in 2) quality content. This at least fixes #1 and makes browsing a pleasant experience. Second step is to optimize the site for mobile, because the user will likely not be at their chairs.

As for content - my 2 cents is that society we need better actors and directors in this area. Just look at sex scenes in Weeds, Black Swan, or Shame - much less explicit skin compared to porn, but a lot sexier nonetheless. Frankly I am surprised that content is not better, with so much demand and money in the business.

Totally agree. People are probably saying a lot of stuff in daily conversation that, if transcribed, could get them fired.

Thanks to social media, these conversations stop happening between two people and include me on the other side of the globe, too. I like that. I want to hear people's real opinions, get a sense of their real personality, from the internet.

Firing someone over their tweets sends a powerful message to everyone to filter what you tweet.

we seem to have stabilized at 7

that is true, i also wonder about this. thanks for making the poll.

am i the only one who thinks that if we expand this poll with availability and location info, we might just end up with an mvp for a dating site?

created an account just to vote!

update: yes, female here! and long time hn reader, like years.