“Science advances one death at a time.” ;):)
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Oh yeah, and then they just let her bleed to death.
If you’re suggesting the lockdowns are unnecessary or poorly managed that seems like a different discussion than this.
And if we want to cast blame I personally would blame, at least in the U.S., how little arts are valued - especially when it comes to providing arts education in public schools.
The federal government could be paying artists to produce work which could then be distributed free to help all of us as we get through this.
One of many possible paths not taken.
It’s appropriate for a manager or team lead to do this. It’s not appropriate to make it the norm (even if it’s “optional”) for the whole team.
Much better for a leader to model the desired behavior, and, create space for those on the team, of their own volition and without peer pressure, follow suit.
It will also be much more authentic, real, and meaningful.
“ In the top echelons of classical music, the violinist Jennifer Koh is by any measure a star.
With a dazzling technique, she has ridden a career that any aspiring Juilliard grad would dream about — appearing with leading orchestras, recording new works, and performing on some of the world’s most prestigious stages.
Now, nine months into a contagion that has halted most public gatherings and decimated the performing arts, Ms. Koh, who watched a year’s worth of bookings evaporate, is playing music from her living room and receiving food stamps.”
https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/we-are-all-sm...
Ha, Soderbergh's Tarkovsky I have never seen - sounds like I should.
You're probably right about filmic - I was just looking for the word that encompasses film/tv/video.
FWIW I saw the film before the miniseries, and, really liked it at the time. It's been a minute. Sounds like maybe I should
Similarly, business people don’t take shit like this seriously until lawyers are involved. They see no evidence of your ability to actually hold them to account and so believe they can just push you around.
Hiring a professional who knows how to actually hold the other side legally accountable, or make them hurt (tens of thousands of bucks in lawyer fees and months down the drain if the case goes to court) shows you mean business.
Otherwise it’s just talk.
A lawyer is also an expert and can give expert advice, both strategic (what should we do?) and tactical (how do we do it?) based on knowledge and experience. Exactly the same way you do in your technical domain. Would you want advice from a non-engineer on how to architect or build something? What database to use? No.
Like developers, lawyers cost money for a reason, and it’s because of the value they can bring.
I’m confused. If they don’t want the pressure of running a startup, why isn’t the co-founder leaving, instead of trying to force you out and remain in charge?
It’s a calculation. And it’s not a binary fight-or-flight situation. There’s room to maneuver - legal maneuvers, speaking with the investor, etc.
If it’s not a negotiation, what is it?
And, how does OP assess their position, possible outcomes, and decide what cost is worth it?
How many months of ones life or tens of thousands of bucks is it worth? Depends on what’s likely to be at the end of the tunnel, no?
Point is - it’s a calculation, of just how badly one desires justice/vengeance, if nothing else. Which, when contracts are involved, for stuff like this means getting advice from a lawyer, unless you want to get your ass handed to you.
IIRC most court cases resolve with some kind of settlement - which is a negotiation.
Even if the process does become adversarial, how do you think wars end? Even when one side is the clear victor there is still negotiation. Consider the U.S. post-WWII occupation of Germany. Even there negotiation was involved at the end. We struck deals with the (now former) Nazis because they could help us against the Soviets in various ways.
There’s a third investor, who it sounds like has the power. So agin, potential for negotiation with the investor.
Negotiation does not equal weakness. It could very much mean negotiating an outcome in your favor from a position of strength. But if all you’ve got on your mind is cake-fucking then you may miss that opportunity.
Nor would it be nearly as good if it had Alex Guinness, but the supporting cast wasn’t up to snuff.
Lol I very strongly feel that the miniseries kicks the movies ass :).
Consider that Gary Oldman re-uses the glasses prop for George Smiley which Guinness originated. That’s how long a shadow Guinness cast in the role - it’s the definitive performance, and thus the definitive filmic version :).
Point being, as others have said, it’s essentially a negotiation. Not a war.
Plus, I guess if the guy really could fuck the cake that gives him leverage and a negotiating position. If he can’t, then it’s moot.
And as other folks also pointed out further down, OP needs good legal advice and, to determine when the cost in time and money ends up being high enough and the probability of a lucrative outcome being low enough that it’s time to walk away.
Knowing those things can help make good decisions.
Which seems like a valid concern.
“ It took Portland, Ore., almost $1 million in legal fees, efforts by two mayors and a police chief, and years of battle with the police union to defend the firing of Officer Ron Frashour — only to have to bring him back. Today, the veteran white officer, who shot an unarmed Black man in the back a decade ago, is still on the force.”
I always liked Alec Guinness (Obi-wan!) but seeing this made me understand just what an incredible actor he was. BBC just knocks it out of the park here, and, it's way better than the Gary Oldman film (no disrespect). IMHO one of the best television shows ever made. Would totally put it up against The Wire, although it's an apples-to-oranges comparison for a variety of reasons.
FYI said miniseries can often be found floating around on Youtbe.
"On Friday, December 18, the secretary of the Army and the Army chief of staff formally disavowed any intention of participating in a military coup: 'There is no role for the U.S. military in determining the outcome of an American election.'
... even when Trump has seemingly failed to get his way, he has still succeeded in doing enormous damage ... No, there won’t be a coup. But we have on record the first ever formal U.S. Army repudiation of a coup. That’s bad enough."
Also see:
https://taskandpurpose.com/news/army-secretary-chief-2020-el...
https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2020/dec/19/army-brass-...
The most surprising part of therapy to me was just how rational, analytical, and logical it all is. Like, things start to make sense which didn't before. Therapy has many components but identifying irrational distortions in our own thought processes is a huge part of it. Which strengthens our ability to rationally assess and interact with our own feelings as they arise.
Thus, counterintuitively, embracing emotional work actually decreases the discomfort/negative impacts of the unpleasant or negative emotions we wish to avoid. Unfortunately, avoidance actually makes it worse.
And therapy often feels unpleasant, but, so does exercise. And therapy's a lot less unpleasant than whatever motivates one to engage in therapy to begin with ;).
LOL FWIW I've basically found that personal growth is a process of discovering my own backwards/inverted internal logics. : /.
If the stuff I said before resonates, FYI, it's all basically cribbed from Buddhist thought or research on mindfulness (UCLA has a pretty good center doing mindfulness research & this is a good book: https://www.uclahealth.org/marc/fully-present).
I got lucky enough to be able to do (still do) a significant amount of therapy w/a skilled shrink (psychologist with Phd with at least some cognitive-behavioral background work, ideally having significant clinical experience) which has been a huge help to me. I also got lucky and the shrink in question had excellent judgement and was the right kind of person for me, which is critical. Seen bad shrinks too.
Lol so all this means I'm definitely biased from my own experience.
FWIW I hope you find opportunities to cultivate the good emotions as they arrive in your life, from a simple cup of coffee (or whatever you like) to whatever. In addition to it's own benefits, this has been shown to improve our ability to manage or mitigate negative emotions in a healthy way.
I don't do it enough but there's significant amounts of research showing that writing in a journal (about anything) about ten minutes a day has really positive mental health outcomes, as does making a daily short list of 2-3 small things (like coffee ; ) to be grateful for.
And of course stuff like exercise, yoga, some kind of physical activity. Sorry if I've gotten preachy - as you can tell it's something I have strong feelings about, hah, pun intended.
Point being, while I can't speak to your circumstances, as a general rule it's actually very simple and straightforward to apply (but simple isn't the same as easy! Doing 101 pushups - simple, not easy) all the good science around specific, straightforward techniques for increasing genuine and healthy positive emotions, and mitigating the discomfort of negative ones or sort of neutralizing them altogether.
And all of this eventually helps one cease any self-destructive coping/self-medication behaviors (which I have done/do) - drugs, alcohol, computer games, overwork, etc, which, in this context, beyond their moment of actual use, make negative emotions worse and make it tougher to experience positive emotions.
Like mastery of any skill it takes patience and time but pays off in a big way.
peace! :)
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Homie I hope you eventually wake up and smell the coffee :).
Take away emotions, lol, and you literally are no longer a human being.
Lol take away emotions and you literally die - fear, anger, sadness,desire, hunger, joy, curiosity. Intellectual curiosity is an emotion. The joy of solving a problem, doing something with some slick and elegant logic? Emotion.
> We often act against our own best interests and health purely because we're afraid, for example.
Best interest? The very concept fundamentally depends on caring about something - being alive, the good of humanity, whatever. Caring about absolutely anything? An emotion :).
We actually are able to control a lot, but not all of our bodies. Once we accept that we are inherently emotional beings and work on being more conscious of our feelings and mindful ;).
FWIW while it’s a lifelong effort, practicing to neutrally observe our feelings and treat them more as data to analyze, without divorcing ourselves from them or denying them, is a powerful tool to counterbalance the ease of confusing a transitory feeling with one’s self and the counterproductive behavior or decision-making which often stems from that. AKA practicing mindfulness.
Lol which I’m not really doing, writing such a heated comment ;).
Laughter? Emotion.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but computers are perfectly logical and have no emotion and they’re not fucking alive.
Take a page from Commander Data’s book and try to appreciate the fundamental nature of humanity :).
Not unlike say, mindfulness. Of oneself, of others.
Says the person commenting on HN at midnight ;)
Healthy boundaries are more consistent and universal than you think, with the massive caveat being different cultures handling boundaries differently.
But it’s more about the fundamental psychological nature of human beings and less about individual personality.
IMHO a lot of what you describe boils down to “people who could develop healthier boundaries through therapy or other forms of personal growth and healing.”
Hahahaha you clearly don’t know how much you don’t know about art, music, philosophy, ummm psychology.
Sorry to be a bit mean but come on man .... :).
I’m not denying that math isn’t special in certain ways. It is.
And you could even make arguments about the mathematical nature of music.
But man, to be a serious classical musician or serious jazz musician you have to study and practice your entire life since childhood. Just to have a running.
You wanna get good? Achieve mastery and knowledge? Compose work in dialogue with the great work of the past? Would take you years just to get started.
Or Picasso. His father? A painter. He was literally born into it.
I encourage you to read some good biographies of some artists.
Or even a biography on say, Winston Churchill. Or Lincoln. True political / leadership skill takes a lifetime of study and acquiring experience.
To pick more examples of obviously challenging and cavernous non-math stuff, have you read any Thomas Pynchon, Don deLilo, or David Foster Wallace? Or James Joyce or Samuel Beckett?
Or Homer, for gods sakes. Or the Bible, the Koran, the Old Testament, the Tao Te Ching?
Allow for creative, rational thought which is less precise but more complex than pure logic or math (ie allow for human fucking language), and you get what is maybe the deepest cavern there is.
You underestimate both the time and effort needed to gain a real understanding of literature and art, and, to create it on a high level. And all the fields of human experience which we are unable to completely describe our understanding of via mathematics.
As someone else said, math is hard because it is easy. Humanities are easy because they are hard.
That’s not really fair. Someone who doesn’t like to dance? Entire world missing. Only speaks a single language? Doesn’t really appreciate or enjoy food? Worlds missing.
Doesn’t know a lot about music or art? Has poor emotional intelligence? Enjoys history but not literature?
Worlds missing.
Only socialized in a real way with people like them? World missing.
I can go on. But yeah, quantitative skills are important, and yeah the world is big. It’s even bigger than math.
> sadly we're tied to these primitive bodies
Our bodies (and the sensations and emotions produced by them) are not primitive. They’re super sophisticated and we are nowhere near being able to replicate them.
There’s interesting work btw on the fundamentally intertwined nature of emotion and “rational” thought.