Well, for (i), we wouldn't necessarily see any of the other life systems if DNA life outcompeted it. Bear in mind that we've only really explored a handful of Earth's ecosystems --- it's known that the microbial biosphere extends way into the lithosphere, for example. I'd be totally unsurprised (although thrilled) to learn of a discovery of an alternate life system there.
For (ii), remember that we can't observe any other Earth-like planets in enough detail to know whether there's human-like technological life there or not; all we really know is that we haven't observed any here, and there are plenty of simple explanations why not, one of the most plausible being that transporting human-like creatures from one star system to another in a reasonable time is almost inconceivably hard.
In fact, life like ours is so unsuited for living in space that it's probably reasonable to assume that any successful space-based civilisation isn't going to be using life like ours.
That assumption leads to some interesting corrolaries: for example, once you're adapted to living way out in the dark, the inner solar system is going to be horribly inhospitable. And you're likely to be quite slow, because everything's going to take a long time.
So if such a civilisation existed on the outskirts of Sol system, it would be entirely plausible that they wouldn't come and visit --- coming here is too dangerous, and besides, if we're going to be interesting to talk to we'll be rebuilding ourselves to be like them and be out there soon...