Why the Open Code of Conduct Isn't for Me
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I chose to be offended because we're amongst other friends in a Skype chat who promote this sort of thing: environments where discussions and comments that would offend people should be avoided. I'm fine with that. Who wouldn't be? The the degree they promote this to is equivalent to what's in that CoC. It's well-intentioned, as mentioned in this article.
What I'm not fine with is them being hypocrites about it. That's when I choose to be offended. I don't speak ill of anyone in that chat, but to have such "progressive" individuals claim this is the environment they want, and to selectively choose what they want to apply it to is reasonable grounds to get mad.
My problem with these codes of conduct are that the people who promote them have repeatedly persecuted me, and even went as far as to try and deface me in front of my employers.
I think the concept of it alone is fine, but the people advocating for them have been nothing but offensive to me, ironically enough. The people advocating for this haven't been peaceful, respectful individuals. They've made personal attacks on me.
I say this because it's part of my religion of free will. I really wish people would stop mocking my religion and oppressing me:)
There is the "bootstrap problem", which is that what you're describing is more or less a truncated form of humanism - and that in itself is of course a belief system much in the manner of a religion (I guess, as you observe above).
Practically speaking, religion and belief are enshrined as "protected characteristics" for discriminatory purposes in most human rights laws. Right up there with age, disability status, sex, sexual orientation and so on.
I personally don't care for organized religion (nor organized much of anything for that matter). But this bias is irrelevant to the point. That is... belief systems are not the same as intrinsic characteristics of a person and don't in any way deserve the same respect. The comment about "my religion" was to illustrate a simple point. That is, it is practically impossible to respect and refuse to counter all belief systems. Which why would we?
Now, for a workplace where people need to get along, yes, there should be rules about not being rude. But that might include not mocking the kind of shoes someone wears or their preference in movies. Or their religion. But that's as far as I would take belief protections. Religion has gotten a special pass for far too long, probably because it has been useful to the state.
That's a remarkable contention, and one which strikes me as flat-out wrong. One doesn't choose to believe in something; one either does or doesn't.
Note well: I am not advocating this attack. I am merely noting the way that offense-based codes of conduct can be used to ruin people.
If I hate the color purple and you have a purple logo, am I "offended"? Likewise, if I'm afraid of spiders and your logo is a spider, is that problematic?
This Code of Conduct is an attempt to set a baseline people can aspire to adhere to, not a set of iron-clad rules.
If someone's running an "Denial of Attack by Claiming Offense" on you, then clearly they'd need something to be offended about. What could you be doing where no matter what you did, they'd still protest?
For example, I took a look at your posting history here. In the first page, I found two things that I could have used to claim offense. (I won't say what they were, because it would require contortions that I don't want to have to go through, and because I'm not actually trying to do this to you.)
Qu'on me donne six lignes écrites de la main du plus honnête homme, j'y trouverai de quoi le faire pendre.
If you give me six lines written by the hand of the most honest of men, I will find something in them which will hang him.
However, when I'm working with other people on an open-source project, I don't have time for assholes of any sort. This goes for people being dismissive or discriminating as well as those who are quick to harp about being oppressed when clearly it's not the case.
Context is extremely important here.
What about those who are domineering about enforcing their preconceptions of appropriate communication on others regardless of interpersonal and productivity cost, even when they weren't privy to the communication in the first place and no party involved in the communication cares for their opinion on the subject?
Me personally, I think those guys are the worst of all.
Maybe the project owner will try to say that the CoC only covers what happens in the repo/chat, but the "victim" will explain how she doesn't feel "safe" anymore working with you and you will be kicked out.
It seems to have over 700 points and is around 16 hours old, but I am unable to find it on the r/programming hot tab.
If administrators of r/programming or reddit took it down, I would be interested in why.
I'm a firm believer in your Right to be Offended, but you know what? Maybe GitHub isn't the place where you should expect to be offended. Maybe this Code of Conduct is an attempt to set the conversational tone.
Freedom of speech does not mean the freedom to spray your thoughts and opinions on all platforms, public and private. You have a problem with GitHub? Get your own site and go nuts.
It's that aspect of the internet worth defending tooth and nail. GitHub is not the internet.
Now you have adults going “I was offended, I was offended and I have rights!” Well so what, be offended, nothing happens. You’re an adult, grow up, and deal with it. I was offended! Well, I don’t care! Nothing happens when you’re offended. “I went to the comedy show and the comedian said something about the lord, and I was offended, and when I woke up in the morning, I had leprosy."
Nothing Happens! “I want to live in a democracy but I never want to be offended again.” Well, then you’re an idiot.
How do you make a law about offending people? How do you make it an offense to offend people? Being offended is subjective. It has everything to do with you as an individual or a collective, or a group or a society or a community. Your moral conditioning, your religious beliefs. What offends me may not offend you. And you want to make laws about this? I’m offended when I see boy bands for god sake.
It’s a valid offense, I’m offended. They’re cooperate shills, posing as musicians to further a modeling career and frankly I’m disgusted.
- Steve Hughes.
I think they missed "chosen brand of kitchen sink".