On the one hand, it's depressing how common these issues are on a wide scale and I want to see them put to rest. On the other hand, I've done a lot of work to cultivate an intelligent, balanced social/professional group specifically so I wouldn't have to worry about these issues in my daily life.
I started out on board with using the internet as a medium for advocacy. Now, after a couple years of the scandal-shame-"apology" cycle, I'm cynical and frustrated. There's always some idiot treating people around them like garbage. There's always somebody with a story about their mistreatment. There's always some org making empty changes to appease public outrage. I've done what I can locally and virtually and (go figure) it did little to fix a society-wide issue. The constant barrage of victimization and victimhood wears us all out and it's no longer a purely social topic. Music, movies, industries, churches, countries, there's mildly-inappropriate-to-horrific stuff happening everywhere and the conversation never stops. At some point it does start feeling like you can't talk about anything online without having to pay lip-service to the crimes of strangers world wide. It's become harder and harder to connect and the threshold for "unforgivable mistake" has gotten lower and lower.
So it just doesn't feel worth the energy to engage anymore. The world isn't a better place because of this particular conversation we're forcibly engaged in all the time. People are generally incredibly bitter or entirely apathetic, either doing the right thing or committed to their crumminess. Rarely does the virtual mob even take anyone down and at least half the time when they do it's some nobody making a typical human mistake that could be easily addressed with normal 1-1 interaction. Meanwhile the companies that peddle this stuff get rich on our collective disgust and 99% of the jagoffs in the world keep doing their thing until the outrage lotto picks their number. That's our tactic for social improvement. It's a joke.
Anyway, I'm saying I get where this individual is coming from. I suspect the site is as much an angry rant as a serious idea (there's nothing groundbreaking about people behaving themselves: most of us do it most of the time, and I think that's the point). But a lot of these Codes of Conduct feel like a flimsy response to the toxic way we talk about these problems and not a response to the problems themselves. nCoC seems to be the flip-side of that coin, It says "we have problems, we don't know how to discuss them productively, so let's focus on the work we share and forge relationships that way."
In most settings, that's the one good approach we can all reliably execute. My two cents.