Me, me, me, it’s only about me! That’s what you sound like – and that’s not what mutual respect looks like. Mutual respect means communicating with others and finding an ok solution for everybody, not wearing whatever the hell you want (and it also means that you better be careful especially around sensitive things, like potentially objectifying depictions of women, especially in a context were women have long been denied access, and to be proactive in your behavior in those contexts, because the people affected by it may feel or actually be unable to speak up).

Yea, we're incredibly intolerant. Men and women in equal roles, with equal pay, and a healthy diversity of cultures, ideas, and religions. Everyone feels comfortable suggesting an idea, or challenging a preconceived notion. The only real rule is Don't be a douche. You wouldn't like it.