The Terrifying Legacy of Gaslight

> Gaslighting is also frequently a gendered act, used by men to exert control over women. [...] “Stop being hysterical.”

That reminds me of this quote from a fantasy novel:

> "At Teidez's interment, he never missed a chance to pass some little comment on Iselle to any lord or provincar in earshot. If she wept, wasn't it too extravagant; if she laughed, how odd that she should do so at her brother's funeral; if she spoke, he whispered that she was frenetic; if she fell silent, wasn't she grown strangely gloomy? And you could just watch men begin to see what he told them they were seeing, whether it was there or not. Toward the end of his visit there, he even said such things in her hearing, to see if he could frighten and enrage her, and then accuse her of becoming an unbalanced virago."

--The Curse of Chalion, by Lois McMaster Bujold