There should definitely be a bigger dataset version, the teste data is a very small fraction of the available memory.
I'm not sure that graph data (generally) is particularly amenable to being spread across multiple nodes. My understanding is that ArangoDB has implemented some clustering based on Googles Pregel Framework, so I suspect it might fare a bit better in my friends test... but in spite of my urging I don't know that he has had time to recreate the test with Arango. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
I don't know if any database is fun to deal with at that size. My experience with Arango has been an unremarkable amount of remarkably complex data, so I would also be interested to see the results with something huge.