When given the choice, it seems humans have children more out of necessity than desirability.
When given the choice, it seems humans have children more out of necessity than desirability.
Edit: In the land I come from (south Italy) it was fairly common up to 50s and 60s for a couple to raise many children, as many as 7 or eight.
The reason is dead simple: being the economy largely based on agriculture and being schools not very common, more children meant more helping hands.
That need has basically disappeared.
Japan had -and still have- a very similar issue.
It most definitely is NOT a good thing to have a birth rate below replacement in a developed country, especially one with European-style social programs. Eventually you run out of workers to support the people who aren't doing so.
As for quantifying which births are "lover's" births, and which are not, well... good luck with that.
http://www.ted.com/talks/hans_rosling_shows_the_best_stats_y...
In a nicer place with better finance and social security systems, you can pull it off without having a lot of children.
The Greatest Generation were absolutely positive that the future was going to be very bright once they returned home from the war, hence the baby boom and baby boomers.
Once you account for access to contraceptives, etc. (i.e. once childbearing becomes a choice), I think this is largely what determines the birthrate, which is why most efforts to 'engineer' a higher birthrate have been so futile.