If you don't want to be in this position then don't marry one of these guys. Find a man that values your career and will take care of the kids. Pretty simple.
You infer that men made the decision that defines the women's lifestyle. Whereas the women say, “It’s easier and more fun,”
I am responding to what apparently is the author's view. I didn't say that men defined these women's lifestyle and the women didn't choose to live this way.
Curiously, I didn't find any mention that any of these women had any regrets. The negative framing seems to only be on the author's part.